Cilia is a certified Sex, Love, and Relationship Coach
I work with ambitious women+ on the individual level who have a history of toxic relationships and you might be:
- In your first healthy relationship and you desire support in feeling worthy of receiving healthy love bc you don't want to mess this up
- In a long term relationship but bc of your love of ambition & history of toxic relationships- it's been safer to prioritize productivity over intimacy and you desire support in feeling more connected to your partner
At the individual level, the presence, energy, and communication you bring to your relationships shifts with my work and it allows you to prune unhealthy relating and call in deep, loyal, loving friendships and love instead
+Inclusivity statement:
My main audience is women however, I work with women, gender fluid & non-binary folks. If you don’t fall into these categories but you like my vibe, I have a network of coaches I can refer you to so please get in touch with me!
Everyone has a Self Expressed Babe within them
When I started dating, I kept repeating the cycle of getting into toxic relationships with people who didn't see my worth.
This was because I couldn't see my own worth.
I stayed in a toxic, unaligned relationship for way too long... you know one of those situations where you look back and think "what was I thinking?"
And then in my mid-20's I began to devote to a daily yoga practice. Little by little, I came home to my body. I could no longer ignore the inner voice telling me that I hated working in the fashion industry and I hated being in the relationship I was in.
I ended that toxic relationship of 6 years, quit my job, and moved back in with my mom. My life was both a mess and also coming together at the same time.
The type of people I was dating COMPLETELY shifted when I worked on healing my father wound
But even when I found myself in my first healthy relationship, unworthiness came up. I couldn't fully RECEIVE that healthy love and I didn't fully trust that being myself was safe.
It wasn't until I did the inner work to really truly come home to my body and dismantle all the shame I learned to feel about being a person with a p*ssy that my capacity to receive healthy love grew.
This work is not for the faint of heart but I showed up because I was married to my soul mate and I was determined to do what I needed to do to not push him away.
The transformation I've received from yoga, meditation, embodiment work, sacred sexuality work, and coaching is the heart beat of why I do what I do. I truly believe everyone has a Self Expressed Babe within them and I'm here to help you find that within you and let her/them out!
The training that flavors my work:
- VITA™ Sex, Love, and Relationship Coaching Certification program (a trauma informed program and in 2024 I'm currently studying specializing in Life Transitions and Female Sexuality)
- Certified Womb Circle Facilitator
- 200hr Yoga Teacher Training
- plus 9 years of teaching experience
- Various other trainings including: Forgiveness Life Coaching, EFT Tapping & more
I'd like to honor and thank the teachers, facilitators, and authors who I've learned from. My work stands on your shoulders:
- Radha Krishna Lila, 500-E-RYT
- Benjamin Smielowitz
- Sunder Ashni
- Jennifer Gunsaullus, PHD
- Layla Martin
- Marina Nabaõ
- Cory Scott
- Mike De Vos
- Lucia Capacchione, PHD
- Harville Hendrix, PHD
- Karyl McBride, PHD
- Jasmin Lee Cori, MS, LPC
- Emily Nagowski, PHD
- Anodea Judith, PHD
- Sheri Winston, CNM, RN, BSN, LMT
- Ev’Yan Whitney