Self Expressed Babe coaching
1:1 relationship & sexuality coaching for ambitious women who want to feel deeply connected in love
You're an ambitious woman with a history of toxic relationships and you've done the work to FINALLY be in a healthy relationship (yay!)...
However, your love of ambition and your past of toxic relationships makes you feel a lot safer prioritizing productivity over intimacy.
You've accomplished so much to get to where you are in life, but you're craving a deeper connection with your body and your partner.
You feel disconnected from your body, stuck in your head, and disconnected from your partner. Maybe deep down, you secretly think you'll inevitably mess this healthy relationship up. Or maybe you secretly feel unworthy of receiving healthy love.
I'm here to help you find and unleash the Self Expressed Babe within you so that you can begin a chapter of epic self love, body love, and romantic love.
This is a transformation will be with you for a lifetime and will ripple out into all areas of life (which is why I'm so passionate about it!!)🔥
Deeply connected love starts with self love
Thanks maybe to Disney, it's common to think that one person out there is going to fix everything. "If I could be in a relationship with that one amazing, perfect person, I'll be healed!!"
But that "perfect person" is in the mirror. Getting deep, loving, and compassionate with yourself is the KEY to feeling deeply connected in love (and friendship!)
The earlier you can not only believe that but fully feel it, the earlier you can have the capacity to fully receive the healthy love in your life and deeply connect with your partner.
Why? Because what you're unconsciously looking for your partner to "fix" about you is something YOU give yourself.. completely shifting how you show up in your relationship.
With your inner world soothed, you can start to embody the Self Expressed Babe and the way you show up for yourself and your relationship completely shifts.
If you're on this page, I truly celebrate you for making it here because this work is about to become a pivotal time in your life that benefits you for years to come! I know this because I was once you and I've helped almost 100 women walk this path too!
Hi, I'm Cilia!
I combine scientifically proven transformational tools with ancient mystical wisdom and practices to help you feel deeply connected in love
Through working on the individual level in the deepest realms of self love and identity, I help my clients step into their worth, radiance, and truth in a way that lasts! I combine my expertise as a Certified Sex, Love, and Relationship Coach with my training and experience as a former teacher of mediation, yoga, and barre to facilitate safe spaces for growth and transformation.
Our work together will benefit your for a lifetime because once you learn to fully receive and show up for healthy love, it's grounded in the body as muscle memory.
As a romantic at heart, I didn't give up on finding love even after a string of toxic relationships. Somehow, I knew my person was out there.
But it wasn't until I realized that "my person" needs to first-and-foremost be myself- everything changed!
Through connecting with my own body and cultivating a loving, unconditional, radically accepting relationship with myself... I found myself in my first healthy relationship.
But wait, did I truly feel worthy of receiving that healthy love or was it only something I believed in my mind?? 😬
When I kept showing up for the layers beneath mindset work, something I call "bodyset", I experienced an endless well of safety, worthiness, and confidence to be a self expressed babe.
Working on sacred sexuality work was the final shift and the deepest kind of transformation... it was life changing just like how getting on a yoga mat for the first time in 2014 changed my life.
Not only did I have capacity for more closeness with my husband, where I felt worthy of healthy love, but it rippled out into friendship, relationship with money, business, and so much more! So I just had to get certified as a coach to give you that same gift!
With this 1:1 work, you'll continue to receive transformation from our time together for life because at the deepest layer, we are changing on how you relate to all of life (EVERYTHING is a relationship!!)
Inclusivity statement: My work welcomes women of all sexual orientations. While my main audience I serve is cis-women & the language on my website speaks to that group, my coaching welcomes trans, non-binary & gender fluid folks with vulvas
How I define the Self Expressed Babe:
SELF: In relationships (romantic and friendship) she is self-empowered to be her true self without fear. She takes the time and space to pause and nourish the relationship with herself because she knows it also benefits the people she loves most!
EXPRESSED: She feels worthy to speak up for her needs, she makes space for creative self expression, and she practices clear, non-violent communication. She is seen, heard, held, and valued in relationships
BABE:Â She is deeply connected and satisfied in her romantic relationship and feels so sexy and empowered because she is also her own lover and views her body, sexuality, and sex life as sacred!
Want to become her?? Read on below to see what working with me looks like:
What our coaching journey looks like:
There's a 4-month minimum to work with me and what we work on session to session will vary based on the pacing you need but this is an overview/plan I bring to each 1:1 space.
-Dropping you deeply into relaxation, body, and sensation
The yoga & meditation teacher in me comes out in all my sessions with dropping you into a relaxing space where you notice the little, subtle body sensations that have been trying to speak to you
Outcome: To realize and outwardly express your deepest, most true desires!
-Clearing the slate
I'll facilitate a safe space for you to notice where you are getting in your own way of what it is you deeply desire
Outcome: Clearing away thoughts, beliefs, and somatic blocks to your desires so that you can make the moves needed to reach your goals
-Sexual Thriving
Based on your needs, I facilitate sessions that bring playfulness and fun to healing from the present blocks in in your sexuality while also helping expertly guide you to bring more pleasure into your everyday life
Outcome: Clearing away of shame and a calling in of your most vibrant, fully expressed, and deeply-connected-to-self version of you!
Rituals and practices get sprinkled into our time together. Some sessions might be a fully guided ritual and some sessions might have some time dedicated to a practice while also making space for more talk-based coaching. An example of a ritual would be me guiding you towards the end of our time together through a ritual where you're invited to embody the version of you you've been working on becoming during our time together. Rituals may include movement, breathwork, music, or other practices.
People describe my energy as:
Very grounded (I've been meditating regularly since 2014!)
Deep but at the same time playful (who says healing can't be fun??)
I'm childfree but one of those people that always gets told "you would be a great mom" and I channel that presence & mirroring of my mama side into my coaching practice
Before we decide to work together, I meet with you on zoom just to make sure it's a fit for us both because it's important for you to feel safe in this work!
Pricing
$1,100/month
4 month minimum commitment, 3 sessions/month
3 sessions per month, 60-80 mins, with a combination of coaching & guided practice/ritual
Custom resource library for your action steps between sessions
Testimonials
"Cilia is wonderful at providing a safe exploratory space. She brings a calm inquisitive nature that allowed me to feel free to disarm and ask myself some challenging & deeply fruitful questions. Her style is partnership-oriented, and I never felt judged. This helped to create a wonderful sense of joy and adventure in the process. I was amazed at some of the discoveries that emerged out of just 3 sessions, and I am greatly looking forward to delving in further, I can't recommend Cilia enough." -Brenda
"I definitely feel a shift in my feminine energy and power. My marriage is absolutely stronger, more connected, and sexier! I've also noticed some beautiful new levels of creativity blossoming. I would absolutely recommend this 1:1 work to anyone looking to deepen their relationship, unlearn + relearn old sexual stories, and claim their feminine power." -Anna
"She provides a safe space for exploration of deeper, more intimate topics that may be affecting our day to day lives without us even knowing about it. I truly felt cared for by Cilia during our sessions as she was attentive, took careful notes of my self expression, and managed to distill those in a concise manner which helped me focus more and have a more clear idea of what it is that I want in life."- T.R.
My time with Cilia has been empowering; prior to working with her I was feeling disconnected and drifting back into living life on autopilot.  Her guidance and support were just what I needed to get out of my head and into my heart.  Her approach to mindfulness and the tools she shared in the way of guided meditations and EFT have been so helpful on my journey.  Thank you for reminding me that I have everything I need within!Â
Danielle B
Real Estate
"Cilia has such a big heart, and her coaching has opened up so many new doorways for me. Through her programs, I’ve learned how to manage my anxiety, express myself more vulnerability, and release imposter syndrome. She has such a calming presence, which always makes me feel comfortable sharing my challenges and questions openly with her, without fear of judgment. She goes above and beyond in supporting her clients, and I feel very fortunate to have the opportunity to work together. I’ll carry the lessons I’ve learned from her with me for life"Â
Krystal C
Facebook Ad Strategist
"Cilia held a powerful space, helped me understand my authenticity & helped me feel self sourced enough to show up authentically. Before working with her, I was feeling anxious to show up in my truth and after I'm feeling so self sourced & grounded in my truth, who I am & who I'm meant to be & how I'm meant to show up in the world. Cilia was so good at seeing me, hearing me, feeling me in such a tender & genuine way"
Shlee G.
Mindfulness Mentor & Virtual Assistant
"Cilia really got me to look deep and figure out where my beliefs are coming from. What I really liked was she gave me suggestions and ideas for how to improve so I had practical takeaways that I could implement straight away!! I could tell she really cared about trying to help and she is an incredibly genuine and lovely soul, I’d definitely recommend working with her!"
