Come home to your body and receive love from deep safety
Worthy of Love
A 1:1 coaching journey & ceremony for ambitious women with a history of toxic relationships ready to stop performing and start feeling truly at home in their body, their pleasure, and their relationships
You’ve built a beautiful life but you somehow can’t seem to attract a healthy long-term relationship. Maybe an unexpected breakup has you freaking out that you’re single past your 20s and you want support in feeling safe to be single. Maybe you want to get back into dating but you’re afraid of getting stuck in the same patterns and you want an approach to help you navigate that.
Maybe partnership isn’t on the agenda but you’re struggling with presence and you somehow feel lonely within your friendships and community. You might be in your “self-love era” just wanting to focus on being single and connecting more deeply to your body right now.
Or maybe you’re in a relationship, but you’re struggling to really enjoy it because you’re spiraling in anxiety and overthinking. You’ve finally landed in a healthy relationship after all the healing work you’ve done but your anxiety’s leaving you afraid of messing it up or losing yourself again. You might even be hyper fixating on thoughts that say “time is running out” and questioning if you’re wasting your time on a person that might not end up being your long term, committed partner you can build a thriving life with.
From the outside, it looks like you have it all together. You’re successful, capable, and the one everyone comes to for advice. But you might notice that while you want vulnerability, there’s a wall up and you’re having a hard time being present and enjoying the pleasures of life.
You crave deeper intimacy, but it feels safer to meet other people’s needs rather than other people meeting your needs because trusting that level of support and getting vulnerable feels scary.
You’ve outgrown the version of yourself who survives by staying busy, overthinking, and trying to prove your worth.
You want to actually enjoy your relationships while feeling peaceful in your body and mind.
You’ve healed a lot already, but the same patterns still creep in when you’re triggered and you want an approach to help you deal with that.
You want to feel more confident, radiant, and sexy. Not as a performance, but as who you are.
You also say you want deeper relationships, friendships, and community but it’s difficult to have the capacity to let these beautiful things into your life and now you’re shame spiraling over it.
You might have tried therapy and read attachment theory books but none of it worked. That’s because what needs to be addressed is what lives in your body and I’m here to support you in going deeper than thinking or strategizing your way through this.
You realize that you can’t hustle and achieve your way through the deep connection you crave and you’re ready for an approach that can truly support you in feeling truly at home in your body, your pleasure, and your relationships
Imagine Feeling:
🌹 Grounded in your body and no longer spiraling in anxiety or overthinking in response to relationships. You get to feel excited, at ease, and like it’s safe to bring all your beauty and messy into your romantic partnerships.
🔥 Confident expressing your desires and boundaries in relationships because you’re deeply connected to a body-based sense of worthiness and you’re CLEAR on what you desire.
💧Safe to receive love, pleasure, and support so you can truly thrive in friendship, community, and romantic relationships. You end up having many moments of “Wow, I didn’t even know this could exist” while you’re having deep conversations or looking into a lover’s eyes.
🌿 Radiant in your relationships because you trust yourself deeply rather than making yourself small because you feel too embarrassed to take up space. There’s never any sense of holding back your true self expression because you fully believe that all of you is inherently worthy,
🔥 Deeper capacity spice things up with a long-term partner in the bedroom instead of slowly letting your beautiful relationship starve out and die intimately.
All of this is what happens when you stop trying to earn your worth and start embodying it.
How it Works:
Each session is a blend of scientifically proven transformational tools and mystical practices for a holistic transformation. Instead of spending our entire sessions talking, you’re guided in mindful practice and given space to drop in and feel.
Your journey and ceremony will begin with deeply connecting to desires which act as a guiding light for our time together. We begin with a full 90-minute session to map out your desires and from there I build a custom session plan with you so you know what themes we’ll be exploring next. My work is very flexible and client centered so things may adjust based on your needs and what you have the capacity to consent to.
Every Session leads with:
- Teaching you and getting you used to the habit of celebrating TF out of yourself and unapologetically taking up space as you do so
- Slowing you down and getting you in the habit of being even more mindful in your body
- Your unique desires as the North Star (we choose one to laser focus on each session)
- Collaboration because we’re creating this ceremony and journey together and I’m here to walk you along the path of deep self-love. This means I communicate what’s coming next in our sessions and make sure you’re a yes. So if I was guiding a specific type of visualization, I’d give a brief overview of what I’ll be facilitating and giving you the opportunity to consent or let me know you’d prefer to go in a different direction. I always meet a “no” with celebration.
- Curiosity- qquestions and reflections are worded in a way to get more information rather than making you feel judged or broken.
Together, we'll Explore:
- Reclaiming sensuality and body love because this has a huge effect on you being able to take up space confidently in relationships
- Expanding your capacity for pleasure and presence because you need this to have the capacity for the relationships you crave
- Integrating what you desire to believe and embody about sex, sexuality, and relationships that turns around what you internalized about sex, sexuality, and relationships from Patriarchy, Capitalism, and your family of origin because this will set you free.
- Healing your relationship with divine feminine energy which is the part of us that slows down long enough to feel and is a part of us that Capitalism and Patriarchy tells us to suppress.
- And much more, all in a way that’s customized to the desires you want and where you’re at in the present.
What's Included:
- Inside your private 1:1 coaching journey and ceremony, you’re getting:
Weekly sessions starting with a 90-minute Opening Ceremony where we open up our space with intention, deep dive on your desires and do some coaching from there.
Three 60-90 min coaching sessions per month (extra 30 mins is in case we get to something deep that needs more spaciousness, which I think is important for this kind of work!) (12 total)
One 90-min session per month where you’re guided in a practice or ritual, that’s specific to what you’re moving through in our sessions. (4 total, which includes the opening and closing ceremony. If you choose to renew, you have a guided ritual that’s NOT a closing ceremony while we continue our time together)
A personalized library of notes from our sessions, and custom meditations, practices, PDFs, and other tools that go along with what’s coming up in our sessions.
Email support between sessions
Access to my signature sensual self love course, Heart Magick
Most of my clients renew after 4 months but whenever we get to the end, our final call is a 90-minute session for coaching followed by a closing ritual/ceremony at the end.
Together, we help you heal from the patterns that have stood in the way of you having the life and relationships you crave and deserve
Hey, I'm Cilia!
The wise woman by the fire for ambitious women with a history of toxic relationships
Certified Female Sexuality Coach | Certified Sex, Love, and Relationship Coach | Certified Womb Circle Facilitator
Inclusivity statement: My work welcomes women of all sexual orientations. While my main audience I serve is cis-women & the language on my website speaks to that group, my coaching welcomes trans, non-binary & gender fluid folks with vulvas
For a long time, I looked like I had it all together. Living in New York City with a great 9-5 job as a Director of Operations while getting to do what I love on the side: teach yoga and meditation.
Underneath it all, I was exhausted from all my commitments and anxious about my 20s coming to an end without being someone’s Wife.
I was meeting people and making friends, but I couldn’t shake the feeling of being lonely in my community. I’d had a string of toxic romantic relationships and all I wanted was a healthy, committed partnership and friends I felt deeply connected with.
Everything shifted for me when I realized I was living my life from the neck up (yes, even though I was teaching yoga & meditation).
My ambitious lifestyle had me addicted to living in my head and my past of toxic relationships taught me that being in my body wasn’t safe.
I knew I couldn’t blame other people for being toxic or unable to connect if I didn’t look at the common denominator in all of my relationships: Me.
Showing up for the sacred work to truly come home to my body and to feel safe in receiving healthy love was a long and difficult process but it breathed life back into me.
Today, I’m married to the love of my life who I can fully be myself with, I have close female friendships, and I get to feel safe when I connect with my in-person community.
Deep relationships once felt impossible for me, but my transformation was so life changing that I took the necessary training in order to guide you next.
I’m honored to sit as the wise woman by the fire for ambitious women with a history of toxic relationships. Together, we’ll alchemize your pain into power so that you can receive love, pleasure, and life as the worthy woman you’ve secretly been this whole time.
Past Clients // Testimonials
"Cilia is wonderful at providing a safe exploratory space. She brings a calm inquisitive nature that allowed me to feel free to disarm and ask myself some challenging & deeply fruitful questions. Her style is partnership-oriented, and I never felt judged. This helped to create a wonderful sense of joy and adventure in the process. I was amazed at some of the discoveries that emerged out of just 3 sessions, and I am greatly looking forward to delving in further, I can't recommend Cilia enough." -Brenda
"I definitely feel a shift in my feminine energy and power. My marriage is absolutely stronger, more connected, and sexier! I've also noticed some beautiful new levels of creativity blossoming. I would absolutely recommend this 1:1 work to anyone looking to deepen their relationship, unlearn + relearn old sexual stories, and claim their feminine power." -Anna
"She provides a safe space for exploration of deeper, more intimate topics that may be affecting our day to day lives without us even knowing about it. I truly felt cared for by Cilia during our sessions as she was attentive, took careful notes of my self expression, and managed to distill those in a concise manner which helped me focus more and have a more clear idea of what it is that I want in life."- T.R.
My time with Cilia has been empowering; prior to working with her I was feeling disconnected and drifting back into living life on autopilot. Her guidance and support were just what I needed to get out of my head and into my heart. Her approach to mindfulness and the tools she shared in the way of guided meditations and EFT have been so helpful on my journey. Thank you for reminding me that I have everything I need within!
Danielle B
Real Estate
"Cilia has such a big heart, and her coaching has opened up so many new doorways for me. Through her programs, I’ve learned how to manage my anxiety, express myself more vulnerability, and release imposter syndrome. She has such a calming presence, which always makes me feel comfortable sharing my challenges and questions openly with her, without fear of judgment. She goes above and beyond in supporting her clients, and I feel very fortunate to have the opportunity to work together. I’ll carry the lessons I’ve learned from her with me for life"
Krystal C
Facebook Ad Strategist
"Cilia held a powerful space, helped me understand my authenticity & helped me feel self sourced enough to show up authentically. Before working with her, I was feeling anxious to show up in my truth and after I'm feeling so self sourced & grounded in my truth, who I am & who I'm meant to be & how I'm meant to show up in the world. Cilia was so good at seeing me, hearing me, feeling me in such a tender & genuine way"
Shlee G.
Mindfulness Mentor & Virtual Assistant
"Cilia really got me to look deep and figure out where my beliefs are coming from. What I really liked was she gave me suggestions and ideas for how to improve so I had practical takeaways that I could implement straight away!! I could tell she really cared about trying to help and she is an incredibly genuine and lovely soul, I’d definitely recommend working with her!"
